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My first question is What are the Medifast recipes 4 native soup? Looking forward for any answer. My 2nd question... I have never been called "shady" until recently and I have to admit Im pretty pissed off about it..

One friend in particular brought this up to my attention on Wednesday. She said ever since I started losing weight that I havent been the same person. To which I replied, I am the same person but I have a different relationship with food. I had taken my health for granted once before and refuse to go down those same tracks..

She simply said I was too self-involved with my whole workout regimen and eating lifestyle. That I could not have fun anymore..

This is all coming from someone who is bigger than me, is constantly complaining about her weight, doesnt eat right, loses a few pounds just to gain it and Im "shady" wtf?.

I told her I apoligized she felt that way but I was doing this for my welfare and that of my son and if she didnt understand than I am sorry..

When I made that statement I realized that my self-confidence had truly changed. I would never be able to speak up like that and why should I revert back to old ways? Just to please someone else?.

If anything this opened my eyes to who my real friends are. That being said I know that sounds "shady" but how can one claim to be supportive and then take out their insecurities on you?.

Am I wrong?..

asked May 09 at 11:32

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Hmm... I need to find out myself. I don't know what is the answer. I'll do some research and get back to you if I discover an good answer. You should email the people at Medifast as they probably can answer it..

answered May 09 at 12:33

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Jamarion
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Bah! It sounds to me that she is pushing her problems off on you. You should NEVER feel bad about taking care of yourself...

answered May 09 at 13:42

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Jos, people are just rediculous...plain and simple. I have a couple "friends" that have said the same type of things to me. My bf actually told me..."you aren't any fun anymore." All because I don't go out and eat like a hog anymore...seriously?! Talk about "shady" lol. I realized the same thing about myself confidence when I stood up for myself also. Its amazing how quickly some things change with us after gbs. I knew that relationships would start to change because of the.

Surgery.

Outcome, but how can someone judge us for bettering ourselves?..

answered May 09 at 14:38

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Good for you people are going to say more than that hell they talk about jesus .so if she feels that why it's ok you just do you and say I'm sorry but I have to live for ME and my baby .when you lose all that your going to believe me you will change but if that means saying no to Medifast food and so called friends than be it.see it is what I said about my boss she thinks that way to about me but I was always this way so I know I wont change.well keep losing girl looking good...

answered May 09 at 15:51

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Colten
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I went through this for my sister... she didn't have.

Surgery.

But has lost 120lbs, quite smoking and is having a life. one that she wants. Some of the family, (mostly ones that havnt dealt with any of their issues) started gossiping about her to me. saying that she isn't fun anymore and she has become selfish! grrrrrrr this made me angry for her and I let them all have it good. Someone has been successfull and they want to tear her apart..

Dont let them do this to you it is their problem not yours, you have just made the best decision of your life and for your life keep it up I am proud of all of you and I cant wait to be GOSSIPED about lol..

answered May 09 at 16:40

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"Shadowy" perhaps, since you may be just a 'shadow' of your former self, but 'shady?" you cast a lot less shade than you used to cast. But.

Surgery.

Doesn't mean you can't have fun! See if you can meet at Starbucks or someplace like that - a decaf.

Coffee.

Is GBS friendly, and she can have a mocha frapachino latte whatever with extra sugar and cream - and you can still visit. If she chides you about your selection tell her you really wanted to visit with her, not throw up in her lap. Bars are a little more difficult, since even Medifast diet soda is out. Shopping, while fun for you (maybe - wasn't for me) won't be for her. If you can do it, restaurants also work - but again, if she is nasty about your eating it won't. It sounds like she is doing a better job of hanging on to your former fat self than you are..

You win a long and healthy life -standing in no ones shade..

Lin..

answered May 09 at 18:15

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Braylon
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Haters hate...hang in there and you will be fine...

answered May 09 at 18:34

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Josie
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You know I am your biggest fan! I went looking for a site about dealing with relationships after WLS, and this was a little different take on it..

I thought I would share it, just for review...I agree with finding your voice and this may not apply to yor situation, but it could be helpful...luvya! *}.

Http://www.thinnertimesforum.com/po.....

answered May 09 at 20:01

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Cody
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Piss on them. You aren't shady, you are drop-dead gorgeous!..

answered May 09 at 21:38

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Jamarion
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I have never been called "shady" until recently and I have to admit Im pretty pissed off about it..

One friend in particular brought this up to my attention on Wednesday. She said ever since I started losing weight that I havent been the same person. To which I replied, I am the same person but I have a different relationship with food. I had taken my health for granted once before and refuse to go down those same tracks..

She simply said I was too self-involved with my whole workout regimen and eating lifestyle. That I could not have fun anymore..

This is all coming from someone who is bigger than me, is constantly complaining about her weight, doesnt eat right, loses a few pounds just to gain it and Im "shady" wtf?.

I told her I apoligized she felt that way but I was doing this for my welfare and that of my son and if she didnt understand than I am sorry..

When I made that statement I realized that my self-confidence had truly changed. I would never be able to speak up like that and why should I revert back to old ways? Just to please someone else?.

If anything this opened my eyes to who my real friends are. That being said I know that sounds "shady" but how can one claim to be supportive and then take out their insecurities on you?.

Am I wrong?..

answered May 09 at 23:01

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Skye
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Taking care of yourself, eating right,.

Working out.

, and being the best mom you can be for your son is NOT shady. It's responsible..

Way to speak up for yourself!..

answered May 09 at 23:45

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What a friend! She should (key word) be understanding & happy for you. My guess is...someones a little jealous. She realized youve finally done it, and shes still stuck yo-yo dieting, dropping and adding. Keep your head up & good luck...

answered May 10 at 01:21

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Parker
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Josie baby I just had a week from hell (obviously)! Lol whiners!.

My inlaws were here for a week and I can't stand the smell of them let alone the shit that come outta their mouths. So Ive said some MEAN stuff lately to all the users takers and haters here. FYI I'll never regret anything I say when I see ppl say and write thoughts without THOUGHT..

Josie girl you are as real as God makes, if you're shallow than I love shallow ppl. But hate sniveling, whining self centered idiots!.

Was that ok RD or should I tone it down even more! LOL like I give a shit about ppl who won't even be here in June?.

Lucifer.

FYI kid, you don't chose family, but you can shit can the idiot friends around you. Like me, if you can't handle the truth, fucking ignore me please!.

Lucifer again!..

answered May 10 at 02:32

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I suspect that your friend comments have more to do with her discomfort with herself than with you. I've gotten similar comments and am working hard not to take them personally or react. I have gotten way more assertive about interrupting the bullshit with the simple statement "I hear that you are uncomfortable with my weight loss. You're right, I am changing, I'm getting healthier, and that's a very good thing.".

Learning.

To love & respect myself and take care of myself in healthy ways is my number one objective right now. I know that as I extend love, respect, & compassion to myself, I am able to extend way more love, respect, & compassion to those around me. Some friendships have gotten much stronger & others have fallen away when I no longer played the role of the self-loathing, worthless, fat girl. This journey is so multi-layered and that is a wonderful thing!.

Keep on loving yourself to health and trust your gut. You are doing great!..

answered May 10 at 03:33

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Ana
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Lu, I believe you confirmed exactly what you meant. Mean people suck...

answered May 10 at 04:06

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And had I been born with tits and sympathy I'd said that! Who is this this Chewychick? She's got thegoods Josie!.

Jus sayin Lu..

answered May 10 at 05:17

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It still amazes me that people who are suppose to be your good "friends" can be so mean when you are just trying to have a good life. Your son is your main concern so don't worry about her..

Kathi..

answered May 10 at 06:12

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Ruby
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You are not shady....you are confident and feeling happy with your life. People get used to us not caring about ourselves and then feel self conscious when we suddenly change. Friends will either learn to like the new us or they might not stay in our lives.....family on the other hand as usual we are stuck with...

answered May 10 at 07:04

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Lu:.

I respect your raw attitude and always have as it makes this board entertaining. I am not whining or bitching- -I simply refused to be profiled for something that am I not..

You are absolutely right, I am as real as they come and will always be fat, skinny, or anything in between but I am not going to entertain the idea of being something that I am not simply b/c people dont understand the meaning of "lifestyle changes.".

I was just simply stating the biased bulshit of some people and how this.

Surgery.

Can impact many phases of your life, relationships, marriages, friendships, and so on. That's why we come here after all right?.

Damn if you do something good and damn if you do something bad..

My health and my son are the only things that matter in my life and I dont need any justification for my actions...

answered May 10 at 07:45

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Elliot
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I like what Rath said... Haters gonna hate. You're changin for the better, if the people in your life wont take that ride with you or make it difficult, you dont want them around anyways. Congrats on your new bursting confidence!! How exciting :)..

answered May 10 at 09:04

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Robert
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Nothing in the world is more dangerous than a sincere ignorance and conscientious stupidity...

answered May 10 at 10:42

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Girlfriend, sounds like that "friend" is seriously challenged by the changes you are making in your life. You're like a living mirror of what she should be doing and isn't. So she's trying to blame you for her own discomfort. Forget about it..

What you are doing now is healthy self-interest and it's really important to nurture and strengthen it. If we don't take care of ourselves, who will? If we don't teach our children how to be healthy and take care of themselves, who will?.

Oh, and, no more apologizing for the way someone else feels. You aren't responsible for her sh _ _...

answered May 10 at 12:04

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Zoe
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I don't think your friend's comments have anything to do with you. Her comments are coming from her own jealousy and insecurities..

She probably wants to be like you. You're a good person and you know it, so ignore this girl. Enjoy your day!..

answered May 10 at 12:49

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Nolan
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It's hard to be beautiful!! Hang in there!.

Joanne..

answered May 10 at 12:56

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Annie
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I hate catty bitches (except when I am being one ;-) ). Why is it that some women would rather tear thier friends down when they are doing something good with thier lives, instead of building that person up? I totally have a "friend" who went as far as telling me I was taking the easy way out and was cheating. WHATEVER..

I do think it's what others said - insecurity ... but projection is not ok..

You are doing great, dont worry yourself about this - keep being fabulous you!..

answered May 10 at 13:44

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Marshall
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I think she is worried that her feasting and overeating buddy has flow the coup. just like a drunk ,it's no fun drinking alone....

answered May 10 at 14:43

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Carolina
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Catty little bitches! LOL.

I think the same thing often!.

Lu..

answered May 10 at 15:33

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Londyn
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Jor she is just jealous, for one reason or another she may want the.

Surgery.

But can't make up her mind or swing the insurance or whatever may be she really wants to do it too, and does not know how to handle the jealousy. keep up the good work. it took me 5+ years to decide to do this now my insurance is giving me a fit. and believe me I am insurance poor, so it's not a cheapo insurance. But somehow by the grace of God I am gonna find a way...

answered May 10 at 17:01

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Brooklyn
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Stay positive and be strong! I have heard plenty of times where friendships get ruined because one person looses weight. If that friend is not happy for you and can not understand why you are doing what you are doing and the reasonings then maybe she will be your challenge and the one who will indirectly remind you of how you have failed before and now you REFUSE to fail...........

Stay strong =)..

answered May 10 at 18:26

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Jacoby
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Sounds like your friend has a number of issues to work out for themselves. It is hard for some of those around us, because when we change in such positive ways it is hard for them to keep up. They think that we will force them to change too..

Keep up the good work and isn't higher self confidence grand...

answered May 10 at 18:57

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Some people are just jealous that is her way of trying to make you feel guilty for the choices you've made, Your real friend will stick by you. Hang in there don't let anyone make you feel bad because GBS is best decision I ever made am sure it is yours also...

answered May 10 at 20:37

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Hanna
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You are not wrong. Live your life. Let people project their drama on somebody else. You are always your own best friend. Keep doing good! :)..

answered May 10 at 20:50

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Shady my ass.. That's the same as saying we took the 'easy way out'.. you know what?? F-U!! You know the rest, that's all I'm sayin'. Keep on keepin' on girlfriend. Love ya!.

Krista..

answered May 10 at 22:22

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Amaya
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Haters! Haters! Haters! Tell her to kiss off, maybe she should jump on the band wagon her self and have the.

Surgery.

Good for you that you are speaking up. You have a right to speak your mind and don't let anyone tell you differently...

answered May 10 at 22:27

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Woooo Jos U know I know exactly what you are.

Talking.

About. Dont even give these folks your energy in being mad....

Let them say what they want... bottom line they are just probably jealous that you had the courage and the umph to do something for urself!!!!!.

You are beautiful!!!!!! You know how us "kin folks" are LOL LOL.

Love ya girl.....

Smile and you sashay past them and all their negativity LOL.

HUGS..

answered May 10 at 23:14

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I think your experience is common...among many. I remember feelings hurt and very surprised as the subtle negatives sent my way from one of my closest friends...who is NOT only not overweight, but works in fitness. I thought she'd be one of my biggest cheerleaders, you know? She hasn't been as vocal as your friend, but not supportive. Further, she has commented to others that she feels a certain "self attention" that could end up being unhealthy...with the over focusing on getting certain foods in, not eating others, though she likes the.

Working out.

I do. Odd..

Part of the issue for some I know is they know folks who have gained back a good chunk of weight after going through all of this. I was a concern for me too, and something I honestly feel over time, we ALL have to keep in check. But with the new active life-style many of us develop, and healthful choices in food, of course it's doable..

My best advice...keep doing what you know to do, and need to do. We have to be comfortable in our own skin...or so is my goal. Anything over done can lead to problems, but by keeping ourselves in check, I think in time, others will get on board with us. Even if they don't...oh well...

answered May 10 at 23:38

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Kobe
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Who needs friends like that when you have us! :)..

answered May 11 at 00:47

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